What Is Couples Therapy?

A couple therapy session, also known as couples counselling or marriage therapy, involves a session where both partners in a relationship meet with a trained therapist. The purpose of couple therapy is to address and work through the challenges, conflicts, and issues within the relationship. During a couple therapy session, the therapist provides a safe and neutral space for partners to express their thoughts, feelings, and concerns. The therapist facilitates open communication between the couple, helping them understand each other’s perspectives and improve their interaction patterns.

Couples therapy is a form of psychotherapy that can help you and your partner improve your relationship. If you are having relationship difficulties, you can seek couples therapy to help rebuild your relationship.

“Couples therapy can address a wide range of relationship issues, including recurring conflicts, feelings of disconnection, an affair, issues related to sex, or difficulties due to external stressors,” says Brian Mueller, PhD, a psychologist at Columbia University Medical Center who specializes in couples therapy.

During a couple therapy session, the therapist creates a safe and non-judgmental space for the couple to openly discuss their concerns and emotions. Building trust between the therapist and the couple is essential for productive counseling. The first session often begins with an assessment where the therapist gathers information about the couple’s history, relationship dynamics, and the specific issues or concerns that have led them to seek counseling. The therapist may also explore each partner’s individual background and personal histories. The therapist and the couple work together to define clear and achievable goals for counseling. These goals may include improving communication, resolving conflicts, rebuilding trust, enhancing intimacy, or addressing specific issues such as infidelity or parenting challenges.

Couples may consider seeing a relationship therapist when they are facing challenges or issues in their relationship that they are struggling to resolve on their own. Here are some common situations and reasons when it may be appropriate to seek couples therapy:

  1. Communication Issues
  2. Conflict and Arguments
  3. Trust and Betrayal
  4. Intimacy and Connection
  5. Life Transitions
  6. Pre-Marital Counseling
  7. Parenting Challenges
  8. External Stressors
  9. Loss and Grief
  10. Lack of Emotional Connection
  11. Sexual Issues
  12. Future Planning
  13. Stagnation or Routine
  14. Preventative Care
  15. Individual Growth

 

A Word From Insight Conversations

“It’s important to recognize that seeking couples therapy doesn’t necessarily mean your relationship is in crisis. Therapy can provide a supportive and structured space for improving communication, resolving conflicts, and strengthening your bond. If you and your partner are open to the process, couples therapy can be a positive step toward building a healthier and more fulfilling relationship.”

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These are some of the benefits couples therapy can offer:

  • Understand each other better
  • Identify relationship issues
  • Improve communication skills
  • Resolve conflicts
  • Strengthen friendship and attachment
  • Terminate dysfunctional behavior
  • Learn skills
  • Improve relationship satisfaction

There are numerous approaches to couples therapy, which can include:

  • Emotionally focused therapy (EFT)
  • Gottman method
  • Ellen Wachtel’s approach
  • Psychodynamic couple’s therapy
  • Behavioral therapy
  • Cognitive behavioral therapy (CBT)